How do you learn your limits? Through trial and experience right? How do you learn what risks to take and which ones could destroy you? Through trail and experience right? Life is a tricky game.
I used to identify solely with addictive patterns and mental illness's but as my life experience grew I learned that everyone has an ailment that needs treatment, it is the human condition to walk this planet. Pain. We all must experience pain... it is the human experience.
We have gotten so good at masking our pain, avoiding it and running from it entirely. What happens when you stop and face it, when you actually touch the center of it? How far are you willing to go to get to the heart of your pain? Why would you even want to go there in the first place??
Know your limits. That's what I teach in my addictions' programs, how to learn your limits and stay within them. Boundaries and why they are important to keep.
Recently I broke my own boundaries. I asked myself instantly if it was a good risk. My feelings were terrible all the way through, suggesting that it was a poor risk. Sometimes poor risks pay off in other ways and other times you do not feel the boomerang of them right away providing a false sense of freedom from the action.
Every experience is a lesson in limits. What you can and cannot handle, what you want and do not want in your life. Do we always know whats best for us? Why does our intuition speak so loudly against what is supposedly best for us at times then? Who decides what is right for us in the first place, culture or intuition?
If you have a beleif and are of sound mind then you should turn out okay correct? Whats if you have a beleif and you are not of sound mind? Who can tell you if your mind is sound or not? How do you learn the truth of your beleifs if you are not expereincing your limits?
Beliefs change as risks are taken and boundaries are broken. Nobody loves when their beloved beliefs are challenged, let alone by there own making. This is where the power is though..... that moment when you realize an old belief is falling away and the new one rising up is in your full control to mold anyway you see fit....
Ask yourself.... what is it that YOU want? What limits are you willing to push to get it and what boundaries will you put up to maintain it. Is it breaking any previous boundaries already set in place? What are you willing to experience?
If you know your limits you can confidently walk along side any belief to get to the destination you set out for yourself.
I have been distracted from my weekly readings because my life flows in directions I can never plan for in my daily world. And thats the Goddess honest truth. How does one marry a free spirit who needs routine to be disciplined in a world of structure but full of freaking chaos?
I read this in an email today:
The gapThere's a gap between where you are and where you want to be.
Many gaps, in fact, but imagine just one of them.
That gap--is it fuel? Are you using it like a vacuum, to pull you along, to inspire you to find new methods, to dance with the fear?
Or is it more like a moat, a forbidding space between you and the future?
Posted by Seth Godin on January 21, 2018
..... This email brought me back to the spiritual me that lives on my own time clock and gets things done way better, however, to then marry that clock with the worlds has been challenging to say the least. I have goals and dreams. That need discipline and focused attention. How can I reach my dreams when I cannot even achieve my weekly goals? This is when my dreams look like a far off future across a great divide.
Living in a world of chaos in a calculated way is the way to lesson that gap between our dreams and our reality. Why does it seem like its so hard though. I do move in a vacuum like fashion with so much fun and laughter in my life. I allow inspiration to take me and thus my life leading two jobs, taking college courses and raising a trans gender son.
No shortage of inspiration just all the shortage of discipline.
I am sure when i get to the reading this week I will not be surprised to see some crazy making has ensued by not even recognizing what the cards are saying or a taunting of my troubling lesson. I guess we shall see. From what I am seeing and experiencing in the outside world we have all had some troubling lessons this week. A get stronger week, that's all!
Building on last week, where our dreams were brought into the daily light, we now move into taking care of the details of everyday life. We cannot enjoy our dreams if our daily life is in chaos.
Mouse and Isolt bring a nice grounding energy to the cards that had us high in the clouds last week. Where last week was about tapping into our sleep life and getting high, this week the mouse is asking us to get low and scrutinize our lives. Which s super fitting of this time of year.... New Years!
We are all looking at what we achieved last year, whether your conscious of it or not. We are indeed starting to scrutinize a bit and maybe ingesting the details of our supposed failure or if we are lucky we are reveling in the small details that lead to our successes. Lessons learned all around is what the cards bring us this week
It is at this time that we look at what we achieved last year and what we want from this upcoming year.
Sometimes its hard to look at our failures from last year and thats is where Isolt comes into play. she is the Goddess of Eternal Love. She brings to us the gentle nature of step work, and peeling the onion to our dreams, the stages it takes for an actualized goal to play out.
It takes several years sometimes to lose the weight we intended to lose six years ago. Because we begin to realize that our whole lifestyles will need to change to actualize that goal and well we are not always ready for that big of a step, so we peel the onion layer by layer to get to our goal. Some of us give up entirely and either make new goals and let that one go or someone of us get caught in a pity party and stay trapped in misery, every year trying again and again in the definition of insanity.
Isolt comes to soften mouses scrutiny and to let you know that no step is left unused. No attempt is wasted. I wanted Maria Carey hair since i was seventeen years old and now at forty three i finally have it.... you see there was no way my hair would ever get that thick on my own so until technology and the invention of extensions my goal could never manifest. I am so happy to have my dream hair now finally! Thank you Isolt!
Reviewing our year with the compassion of unconditional love for self will help mouse sniff through what worked and what didn't and to shed some light on the finer details of what you are really asking for. Do you still want what you wanted last year, or are you looking in a new direction?
What did your dreams expose to you last week? Who came to you in them? What feelings were brought up? What lessons, threads, or details stood out to you? Build on those for what can transpire this year.
Learning to work with the energy of where you are at and what surrounds you will make planning the upcoming year more natural. Working with the flow of universal energy and your own bio-rhythms will set you up for far greater success then just shooting in the dark your greatest aspirations.
I always start small on my goals now. But with a few larger steps to immediately follow to carry the momentum along smoothly. Building is the key to any successful life, dream, goal or venture.... Grounding, foundations, steps and then the mountain. This week we are grounding into our dreams....
Do your dreams feel good to you? Do they support you right now? Do they empower you and inspire you? Do you get excited when you think of them? Grounding into that feeling means that cleaning your house so you have a place to study without distraction if going back to school and becoming an astrologer is your dream. Grounding into loving yourself more and taking care of your emotions if falling inlove with another is your goal this year. Grounding into the mundane aspects of your job if your goals is a promotion at work.
Mouse is saying get low, get humble and get ready to sprint across the kitchen floor for that tasty piece of fallen cheese.
Isolt has empowered you to let go of your self judgement from missing the mark on last years piece of cheese, because this year for sure you are gonna get it.... why? Because last year you learned a tremendous amount from your painful failures and missed attempts.
This year.... 2018.... is a major turning point in more of your lives then we are a collective care to admit. This is the year many of you will reach heights you never thought possible. this is the year the collective conscious takes a turn on the seven year cycle for the better. If this year goes badly for you, it will truly be down to you for creating that because in truth this is the year dreams will come true!
What is your dream and are you willing to ground into that this week?